What drives someone to abuse their child?
A child’s innocence and trust makes him/her the most vulnerable among us. A child should never become the target of anothers unhappiness and disappointment with life. For someone who was abused as a child it is understandable that there is anger and sadness. Taking revenge on ones own child for how he/she was mistreated is not the answer. Retaliation on an innocent child only leads to more abuse and no good can come of that. Abuse of any type destroys a persons self esteem and dims ones ability to see a future with hope. Children deserve to have a childhood full of laughter, love and good memories to pass on to the next generation and the next. Reach out to someone who may be too frightened to ask for help. Help someone who may not know there is anyone who cares. Help someone before he/she abuses his child. Help make childhood fun for all children.
Child Abuse – How can we help prevent it?
It is hard to believe each time we hear about child abuse occuring, that it has happened again. What comes over someone that they loose control or, even worse, actually plans to abuse a child? Each time we, the public by-standers, are told of yet another child being brutally murdered by an adult – family member, acquaintance or stranger – we shake our heads in disbelief, ask why and go on about our normal routine. How can we as caring individuals reach out to someone we know who is being abused. Our reaction is to turn away in disgust because the matter is too horrible to talk about, much less get invovled with someone elses problems. Is it really someone elses problem? Aren’t we all responsible when any child is being abused? We need to ask ourselves how we can help a child or even the perpetrator who might have been abused himself/herself as a child. Find out how you can help stop child abuse. Begin by providing the name of a qualified agnecy in your area where someone can go for help. Don’t look away if a child is in need of help. He/she is not able to stop the abuse alone. Do the right thing – Help prevent child abuse.
Did you make time today to tell your child “I love you”?
It only takes a moment and can make all the difference in your child’s day. Telling your child “I love you” gives him/her a sense of security and wellbeing that will stay with him throughout the day. These simple words carry a deep meaning and are so important for some they even remember the moment, the date, the time and the reason it was said. “I love you” validates your child’s importance to your life. Make it a priority everyday and relish the moment when your child responds with “I love you too”.
Answering Children’s Unanswerable Questions
Giving children an answer to questions such as why evil people cause suffering for others, is a question on many of our minds today. The answer is simple – evil people want to make others suffer. But that answer has no comforting power. So how can you, who is as confused as they, find the right words to put their minds at ease? How can you say “every thing is going to be OK” if you aren’t sure that it will be? Being honest with your children is of utmost importance if they are to trust you. Giving children the type of assurance that will put their minds at rest by letting them know that they are loved, cared for and appreciated, will help them, and you, find comfort at this time. None of us have control to change the minds of those who are determined to bring destruction where we least expect it. We do have control over what we say and how we act. Be the role model in your child’s life that will make their world, and ours, a better place.